I’ve heard this statement over and again “We don’t look like what we’ve been through” and I have wondered what it really meant.
Mostly, it’s been used to underscore experiences and how those experiences have not affected our state of the mind or how those experiences do not reflect our current life.
On a second thought, I think…scratch that. You would look like what you’ve been through, exactly like it.
Your victories are represented in those battle scars you carry, your tears, fights and struggles. Those are your experience, those are the things you’ve been through and you’ll sure look like it.
The difference would only be that you now wear your battle scars with pride and you can with joy teach others the lessons that come with it. Some others have now learnt to mask their scars and they can now carry themselves with Grace and vigour as they share from their soul.
Let me put this in perspective. A sickle cell warrior for instance can share from the depth of her experiences, her pains and victory even if she looks and glows like Naomi Campbell. On the surface, you might think hey “you don’t look like what you’ve been through” but indeptly, she looks it deep within her soul. That’s where the joy to share with the world comes from.
How about an accident survivor? a war hero? a weight loss victor? a successful entrepreneur?
We will all look like what we’ve been through, those are proof of our battles and victories. Those stories are what the world wants to hear from us, those stories are fascinating and they make us who we are, we just must learn to mask our scars or better yet wear those scars with pride like Naomi Campbell would rock Dolce&Gabbana on the runway.
Peace, Love and Cold Zobo.