I have heard millennials talk about how great it would have been to have schooled in universities like Cambridge, Oxford, Yale and the likes and how it would have afforded them the opportunity to meet “premium-people” (if there is anything like that) and that would have helped to better their life.
Although I am an advocate for building quality relationships, it is easy to see the hypocrisy in their line of thought. You must understand that to keep “premium” or “high-value” people by your side, you have to be valuable yourself else they’ll render a “one-time” help and you’ll never get access to them again.
You still don’t get my drift? Let me tell you a story.
Come with me.
…Ben-Hur was a galley slave for five years. His galley ship collided with another ship on the sea at war on one of his unavoidable slave travels on which occasion he managed to escape. Ben-Hur was washed ashore only to be saved by Sheikh who quickly recognized him to be an escaped slave. Sheikh Ilderim would offer Ben to the Romans just about the time Ben discovered a sick Nubian horse belonging to Sheikh. He offered to help treat and care for the dying horse and he was obliged. A grateful Sheikh then trains Ben-Hur to be a chariot racer.
This was the beginning of a new chapter for Ben-Hur who went on to race in a Chariot competition where he defeated his betrayer adopted brother Messala.
Long story short, what would have become a horror story for Ben-Hur if he was returned to Roman soldiers became the beginning of his success because he was valuable. (He could care for horses).
To attract and keep valuable people, you need to be valuable yourself or at worse act valuable. The problem with this part of the world if that we often define value by material things.
Value is simply the capacity of someone to uniquely solve someone else’s problem. Your ability to uniquely solve specific problem(s) for others is what makes you valuable. When you become a problem solver, valuable people will run after you and beg to give you their money.
No one wants to feel cheated no matter how wealthy they are. When you rub the face of valuable people with your state of want, they will at best give you a few thousands and they will never nurture that relationship. Do not always take away from people, give others too even if they are wealthier than you are, bring something other than your lack to the negotiation table.
As you go travelling the new week, create value around yourself not “want”. Uniquely solve problems for the valuable individuals around you and they will nurture their relationship with you with great enthusiasm.
Be valuable, solve problems.
Peace, Love and Cold Zobo.