I once wrote about the wise words of Dale Carnegie who said “the reason we aren’t rattle snakes is because our parents aren’t” to paraphrase his words.
Human experiences are such that they are dynamic and often custom-made for each and every person. It therefore demean others when you judge them by a general social conditioning without bringing their unique life experiences to bear.
Away for Dale, I had a late night chat with a friend yesterday and we soon got talking about how the Nigerian society now thrives on folly and immorality. More specifically, the misplaced priorities of supposed leaders of tomorrow (the youth) who seemingly cannot lead their lives.
What my friend said is the basis of today’s post…stay with me.
To restate her, she said “when you hear the stories of this people, sometimes you cannot blame them for their choices. Some of them do not have a choice but to engage in “immorality” so they can raise money to fend for themselves”
While largely this may be true, what’s untrue about it is that “they do not have a choice”. The truth is humans as long as we live will always be presented with choices at every point in our lives.
You have a choice to either eat bread or rice, you are presented with the choice of staying indoor or go out, you have a choice to wear a black or a white shirt etc. Basically, we are presented with choices although different from others.
At every time you are presented with a choice, you have three basic options.
1. Make a decision based of the choices before you.
2. Pretend you do not have a choice and act spontaneously or
3. Be completely ignorant about your choices.
While you might choose to take option 2 or 3, it doesn’t take away the fact that you were presented with a choice, you only chose to see things the way you are not the way they are.
Confusing? Hang on a minute.
Often time, we see things (issues, situation, choices) the way we are. We address issues from our point of view (which might be ignorant anyway) rather than objectively look at issues the way they are. This in itself is the reason why people assume they do not have a choices or become completely ignorant about their choices because they see things from a veiled perspective.
While it would be wrong to judge, understand that you are presented with a choice, you only just see things the way you are. You probably have more options than you think.
Like the holy book says “See, I have set before thee this day life and good, and death and evil” Deut 30vs15
Explore your choices (because you always have), don’t be ignorant, embrace objectivity and live freely this new week.
Peace, Love and Cold Zobo.